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Sinking

Sinking

My darling friends,

I know I usually post on Mondays but I have some feelings to work through and the best way for me to do that is always by writing.

Over the last few days, I’ve been sinking. Not like a rock in water but more like a discarded daisy tossed in some bubbling, gray muck. I’m not exactly sure what brings me to this place, again and again, but here I am.

I suppose it may have something to do with this sunless, never-ending winter. At this point, it feels like summer is just something I dreamed about once. It snowed this morning, and my spirit sank as quickly as these daffodils.

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I’m taking my vitamin D supplements, but I don’t know if there can ever be a replacement for the warmth of the sun kissing your skin. It’s kind of like a virtual hug versus the real thing.

Maybe part of it is the feeling that people think of me as a toy and not a person with a beating heart. I’m real. And so is my pain. It would be easier to have your heart completely snapped in two and left alone to repair, rather than slow, cracking fissures repaired shoddily with sweet, loving words.

The biggest culprit, I’m sure, is the rejection that comes along during the querying process. I know this is typical, but I think what bothers me most is that people who are not writers and have never written and queried a novel seem to think that if the book is any good, or if you have any talent, your novel will immediately get picked up. I think that’s the part that makes me feel like a big, fat, failure more than the rejection itself.

I’ve been honest about my process and failures, but it’s hard to share that part. It would almost be easier to suffer in silence in some ways and not share what I’m going through. It’s hard to live up to people’s assumptions. If I didn’t suck, I would be successful. Simple. Easy. That’s what they think.

And so many people think they could write a novel (if they had time–how many times have I heard that) and it would be the next great American novel or a New York Times Bestseller. I know that’s how people think because many have messaged me for “writing advice” and told me how they could write a book and that they’re sure it will be “better than anything they see on the shelves now”–the shelves I currently can’t get my book on. That’s why I know that they think if this book doesn’t get published, then it must be because I’m a talentless loser.

I already feel that I’m a talentless loser all on my own. I have a lot of fear that this is what’s going to be proven to me and not the phrases I’m always repeating to keep going. “Keep writing. You can do it. One day it will happen.”

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I know I can work through this. I always do.

Perhaps there wasn’t a lot of point to this post other than me knowing that this expression of my feelings will begin to heal me. Maybe some of you feel the way I do, and you’ll know you’re not alone, in whichever way you are sinking.

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4 thoughts on “Sinking

  1. Every writer goes through these things, both the rejections and the attitude: “I can write the best novel” points unerringly to the fact that you (and I) didn’t. I don’t think they mean it that way, but they certainly don’t understand what a draining process it can be.

    I can say ignore those people, but I know it’s really hard. I’ve found a lot of kindred souls on Twitter. Try out the #amwriting, #amediting, #amquerying hashtags — you’ll find a whole bunch of writers who are always willing to share experiences and give support. Plus there’s some fun “games” to play, like #1lineWed and #musemon. If you follow me (@giffmacshane), I follow back!

    Best of luck with your querying!

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  2. I’m sorry you’re feeling so low right now, and wish I had all of the right words to say to pull you back up. I have no idea what you’re going through right now, as I am not to a point where I am trying to get my work looked at and picked up by anyone. I do know that I look up to you and admire you because you have reached that point. You have done it. I’m glad you have shared this blog post, because I, along with a lot of other people, I’m sure, need to know the obstacles we will, hopefully, someday face, and how you are feeling and coping with these feelings. I hope that things turn around for you, and you start getting some good results soon.

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