I #amquerying and it’s so damn hard. (A letter of encouragement to myself)

I #amquerying and it’s so damn hard. (A letter of encouragement to myself)

 

Hey, you with the tear in the corner of your eye and the frown dripping down your face,

I know you’re querying and I know you’re thinking of giving up.

Here’s the truth: Querying is hard. It’s hard work, and it’s hard on your spirits. There’s a lot of research involved. It requires a lot of time-consuming attention to detail, and you are most certainly guaranteed to receive a lot of rejection. Maybe–all rejection and nothing else.

It’s brutal on the heart and spirit. You feel like a complete loser. It’s embarrassing. And there comes a point where you may feel like an untalented piece of shit poo, and you should just quit. But you have to look in the mirror or open up those pages and look at all those words that spilled out of you with great passion and heart. Ask yourself–how much you want it?

Don’t forget that every writer has been rejected. Even those you think of as being “the greats.” Maybe they didn’t get quite as much rejection as you are getting, but they still got rejected by someone at some point.

When you get those rejection letters that tell you that the agent or publisher just “didn’t connect” with your book, think of all those books that your friends so highly recommended, but you just didn’t love. Over and over you’ll hear that this is a “subjective business,” remember that it’s not just a line that agents feed you. It is, in fact, a very real truth. It doesn’t mean that you, or your book, suck. There are a lot more factors that go into someone deciding whether they want to take on your project than just the words you wrote.

One day, you’ll get something other than a rejection if you keep working to improve and you don’t give up on yourself no matter how hard it gets.

And remember…

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal_ it is the courage to continue that counts.”

You just need the courage to continue. Be tenacious. Work to improve. Do not ever give up. You can do this. I believe in you.

 

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Dealing with Self-doubt

Dealing with Self-doubt

 

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Oh man, do I understand this quote! Self-doubt is forever getting in the way of my creativity. I’d even go so far as to say it is the only thing getting in my way.

I have no shortage of ideas. My idea book is so full that I bet if I wrote every day and lived to be 150, I wouldn’t’ be able to get through them all. So what is stopping me?

Writer’s block? No, if I sit down and get going, I always have plenty to say.

Time? Please! I waste more time on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and everywhere else! I have time, and when something is important to someone, they always find the time.

I’m always dragging my feet because I don’t feel like my ideas are good. Or my writing sucks. I feel like I’m a nobody and no one in the world gives two shits about what I have to say.

I struggle to believe in myself. I struggle to feel worthy. But I’m going to keep on trying. I’m going to put those words down on the page and try to believe that I can do it. It could be true that no one else will ever think my words are much of anything, but shouldn’t I?

I’m not sure how to do it, but maybe if I just keep moving forward, I’ll inch closer to believing that I’m worthy.

 
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